Lying almost always complicates the
relationship between people. Each person lies
from the moment he realizes that it can be done. It is not always pleasant,
to tell the truth. However, lying is
rarely the right way to protect. Since childhood, parents have taught us
not to lie, and it is not always so easy, even with age, but you can avoid lying
to yourself by working on yourself.
Understand the cause of the lie
Before you learn how not to lie, you need to know
the reason why you did not want to tell the truth. There can be several. Sometimes
people lie to provoke others to do something. In this case, you have since
childhood come to the realization that it is easier to lie once and achieve
what you want than to go on a long and honest path. But working on
yourself can really change your life, and for this, you do not need to hide something.
second reason that causes lies is to show oneself on the advantageous
side. That is, you do this in order to become competitive and look
better. Another reason why a person can hide the truth is a consolation. Problems stop worrying, and
people are not nervous anymore, having assured themselves and others in the well-being
of the situation.
Plan to control yourself
To stop lying, you
need to approach your actions methodically, which means that you need a plan.
Pay attention to whom you are lying to and in what situations. You will be
surprised, but the lie appears naturally. It provokes, for example,
failures at work or study, feelings that you are experiencing for some person,
or you hide the truth from specific people. You can conclude, for example failure at work makes me lie to my
father that everything is fine. I do not hide the truth from others. So,
we need to eliminate the problem: to change the place of work to where you will
get everything or to go to a training session in order to gain experience and
improve your situation. And your father will be able to truthfully say
that you are working on complexities and are improving.
Reluctance, to tell
the truth, can speak of a strong dependence on someone else’s opinion. Analyze
your feelings, remember what your fears provoke you to hide the truth, and
start working on yourself. If you really are afraid of ruining someone
else’s opinion of yourself, think: is it worth it? After all, because of
disapproval of society, you can ruin your dreams. Work on yourself if you
feel that you are strongly dependent on someone else’s opinion.
It is human behavior,
we are dissatisfied with his personal life, work, financial situation, etc., we
dream how we could change everything, but
does nothing for it. If you think that in your life you need to change something, pay
attention, don’t postpone it to future for better timing.